Colorado Springs Child Custody Lawyer

Experienced Custody Attorneys Protecting the Best Interests of Your Children in El Paso County, CO

Colorado stopped using the legal terms "custody" and "visitation" some time ago. Colorado statutes now refer to three primary parental responsibilities: parenting time (physical custody), decision making (legal custody) and child support.

At Drexler Law, we are here to help you determine each aspect of child custody with the goal of reaching an agreement that ensures your child is protected. We help clients with all types of family law matters in Colorado Springs and the surrounding areas.

What to Know about Child Custody Cases

In divorce cases, custody orders or parental responsibilities orders are entered as the divorce case proceeds through the courts. Often the custody portion of a divorce is one of the more contested issues.

It’s important to realize that custody and child support are separate matters and are not always addressed concurrently.

Child custody allocation can be requested when:

• One parent wishes to formalize the parenting relationship or wishes to obtain an enforceable court order to avoid uncertainty, conflict, or bullying of the other parent.
• A parent is unable to make major decisions regarding the child such as religion, choice of schools, doctors, daycare, or other key issues. Some confusion arises over the difference between child support and parenting time.

At What Age Can a Child Decide Which Parent To Live With in Colorado?

A judge ruling upon your divorce or custody case must take your child’s wishes into account when determining custody if your child is of sufficient age and maturity to express his or her wishes.

A child between the ages of 12-14 will typically be mature enough to express his or her preference; however, the preference or wishes of older teenage children between the ages of 16-17 will tend to have more influence on the judge as to a custody arrangement or shared parenting time.

Understanding the Child Custody Process

Navigating the child custody process can be overwhelming for many parents. At Drexler Law, we believe that knowledge is power, and understanding the steps involved can help alleviate some of the stress. Our experienced attorneys are here to guide you through each phase, ensuring that you are well-informed and prepared.

Here’s a brief overview of the typical child custody process:

1. Initial Consultation: Meet with our legal team to discuss your situation and options.
2. Filing a Petition: We will help you file the necessary legal documents to initiate custody proceedings.
3. Mediation: Many cases require mediation to encourage amicable agreements between parents. We will represent your interests during this process.
4. Court Hearings: If mediation is unsuccessful, we will prepare for court hearings, presenting your case effectively.
5. Final Custody Agreement: Once a custody arrangement is established, we will ensure all legal documents are properly filed and enforced.

By understanding the child custody process, you can make informed decisions that align with your family's best interests. Our team at Drexler Law is dedicated to providing you with the support and guidance you need every step of the way. Reach out today to schedule your consultation!

Understanding the Emotional Impact of Child Custody Decisions

Navigating child custody matters can be emotionally challenging for both parents and children. It's essential to recognize that custody decisions not only affect living arrangements but also influence the overall well-being of your family. At Drexler Law, we understand the emotional complexities involved in custody cases and are here to support you every step of the way.

Here are some key emotional considerations to keep in mind:

• Children's Emotional Needs: Children may experience anxiety, confusion, or sadness during custody transitions. It's vital to prioritize their emotional health and provide reassurance throughout the process.
• Parental Stress: The stress of custody battles can take a toll on parents. Seeking legal guidance can help alleviate some of this burden, allowing you to focus on your child's needs.
• Communication is Key: Maintaining open lines of communication with your co-parent can minimize conflict and provide a stable environment for your children.
• Professional Support: Consider involving child psychologists or counselors to help address emotional concerns and facilitate healthy discussions about custody with your children.

At Drexler Law, we are dedicated to not only providing legal expertise but also offering compassionate support during this challenging time. Our experienced team can help you navigate the emotional landscape of child custody, ensuring the best possible outcome for you and your family.

Is Colorado a 50/50 Custody State?

Colorado courts generally favor shared custody and 50/50 parenting arrangements. This approach emphasizes the equal involvement of both parents in the child's life.

While the judge should weigh a child’s preference in their decision, a judge will never make his or her ruling based solely on the wishes of the child.

How Far Apart Can Parents Live and Still Have 50/50 Custody in Colorado?

Colorado has no standard for how far apart parents can live while still having 50/50 custody. Parents can live as far apart as they agree. Still, the court may intervene if the distance becomes an issue in determining custody.

Many factors make up the broader “best interest of a child” legal standard and the court must consider and weigh all applicable factors, not just a child’s wishes. Taking into account all of the applicable factors, it becomes clear that no magic age exists when a child can decide which parent he or she will live with.

Child Custody & Child Support

Many parents believe that the other parent has to pay child support in order to have parenting time (custody or visitation) with the child. Colorado is clear that child support and parenting time are completely different responsibilities and, in more cases than not, it may be appropriate to coordinate parenting time (custody or visitation) even if child support is not paid or is past due.

Our team at Drexler Law can advise you regarding whether the exercise of parenting time is appropriate, whether it should be and can be suspended or restricted, or whether it is okay to self-restrict parenting time given certain emergency situations.

The bottom line is that it is critical to seek professional legal advice prior to withholding parenting time. A misstep in restricting parenting time can have serious and sometimes irreversible consequences for a parent. Not challenging a parent's unilateral keeping of a child or preventing you from exercising parenting time can also be damaging to your case.

Parenting Plans in Colorado

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to creating a parenting plan. While the state of Colorado honors a “best interests of the child” standard, this varies wildly between families. After determining primary and physical custody, the schedule can be equally difficult to set.

• An answer for every situation. A proper parenting plan is a “how to” for when new circumstances arise to make sure that parents don’t to go back to the drawing board whenever something comes up. A plan needs to be in place for dealing with any issue that might arise, such as medical or emergency care, education decisions and extracurricular activities.
• There are also challenges as children grow through adolescence, which are difficult to address on paper. Both children and parents have trouble acclimating to new arrangements when it comes having two homes, unexpected life events and cooperating as co-parents. Through any move, job change, or simply as a child matures, there will be unpredictable responses to every situation. While nobody knows the future, the parenting plan calls for a unified response.
• Custody decisions. The court’s decision will factor behavior and suitability as a parent, based on your record: employment, criminal history, substance abuse and your bond with your children come under close scrutiny. In a contested divorce, this decision lies in the hands of the judge, increasing the pressure and uncertainty. Hearings will emphasize shortcomings, creating a hostile and emotional environment. Often, that hostility bleeds outside the courtroom, damaging parent-child relationships in the process.

While divorce means a fresh start for each adult, parenting is to continue with as little interruption as possible. This means that ex-spouses will need to rebound after the settlement and work together again. Not in daily life as a couple, but together as parents who lives in separate houses, on separate schedules, and with separate goals other than your united role as parents.

Creating a Co-Parenting Plan That Works

When navigating child custody arrangements, it's essential to prioritize the well-being and stability of your children. One effective way to do this is by creating a co-parenting plan that outlines the responsibilities and expectations of both parents. Our experienced Colorado Springs child custody lawyers can help you draft a comprehensive co-parenting plan that works for your family's unique needs.

Key components of a successful co-parenting plan include:

• Parenting schedules and visitation arrangements
• Communication guidelines between parents
• Decision-making authority for important matters regarding the children
• Methods for resolving disputes or disagreements
• Provisions for handling changes in circumstances or relocation

By establishing a clear and detailed co-parenting plan, you can promote stability, consistency, and cooperation in co-parenting your children, ultimately creating a positive environment for their growth and development.

What Happens When Parents Disagree?

If you and your spouse, or the opposing party, cannot agree on these issues, a court can order an evaluation or investigation that assesses your situation and what parenting plan may be in the child's or children's best interest.

Child Custody Experts: CFI vs. PRE

The evaluator, called a child and family investigator (CFI) or a parental responsibilities evaluator (PRE), is usually a mental health professional or children's expert who has specialized training and education to make assessments and provide recommendations to the court regarding the best interest of your child or children.

Not only can we assist in the selection of an appropriate evaluator or investigator, we are able to explain the primary function of the entire process and advise you on the issues that will be addressed, investigated and reported.

The evaluation and investigation process can be the difference between a well-received evaluation and an evaluation that leaves major repair work to be performed in your case. We recommend highly that you seek professional legal advice well prior to a child family investigation or parental responsibilities evaluation since fundamental differences exist between a CFI and PRE including the qualifications, training, ability, and cost of the evaluation.